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Couples and Marriage Counseling

Couple before Marriage Counseling

Is your relationship or marriage in trouble?

Researchers have found that couples wait an average of six years after their relationships have become distressed or distant before seeking help of a relationship or marriage counselor.  About 50% of first marriages continue to end in divorce and less than 1% of divorced couples ever participated in counseling.  Second marriages are even more vulnerable to divorce, with 60-70% of these marriages failing. 

There are two time periods in a marriage when divorce is most likely to occur:

  • During years 5-7 of marriage, usually after the birth of children
  • During years 16-20, when children have become teenagers or left home 

Are there warning signs in your relationship or marriage that breakup or divorce may be in your future?

·        Growing apart and losing a sense of closeness

·        Not feeling loved, appreciated or respected

·        Keeping a “mental slate” or “tit for tat” attitude

·        Problems with sexual intimacy

·        High levels of conflict and/or tension in the relationship

·        Loneliness and leading parallel lives

·        Presence of Gottman's "Four Horsemen"

Recognize any of these symptoms in your relationship?

Be sure to seek help before it's too late!


How can I find a marriage counselor or couples therapist who can really help my relationship or marriage improve? 

Finding a counselor who has the specialized training and expertise to help couples reconnect and reconcile their differences can be difficult and confusing. Unfortunately, most therapists who provide couples or marriage counseling lack adequate training and experience.  

Why a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist?

John Gottman, Ph.D. is considered the world's expert on marriage and relationships, having studied couples for over 35 years. There are less than 100 Certified Gottman Couples Counselors world wide, and Dr. Virginia Boney is one of only two in the Southeast US.  More information on the advantages of working with a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist is available.  Our article, How to Choose a Counselor may also provide more guidance is selecting the right counselor for your needs.

Why a Certified Emotion Focused Couples Therapist?

Developed by Drs. Susan Johnson and Les Greenberg, Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a highy researched, effective and evidence based theory that helps couples understand and respond to one another's needs.  Research over the past 20 years shows that 70-75% of couples working with an EFT therapist moved from relationship distress to recovery during the course of therapy.  Approximately 90% of these couples working with an EFT therapist show significant improvments. 

Dr. Virginia Boney has completed the certification requirements and has been approved by ICEEFT a Certified EFT Therapist.  For more information: Emotion Focused Therapy Roadmap for Couples.    

Email or telephone (904) 236-3963(904) 236-3963 for more information or to schedule an appointment.

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We provide marriage counseling, relationship therapy, couples counseling, premarital counseling, couples workshops, individual counsleing, and help with divorce and single parenting.